When a "failing" student asks if you're publicly traded
Some struggling students hide extraordinary talents that schools cannot detect. Matteo, with four failing grades and at risk of repeating the year, spoke about markets and entrepreneurship with a passion no grade could measure. The problem isn't the student: it's a system that speaks only one language.
Matteo (not his real name) is in his second year at a scientific high school in Milan. The school flagged him: math, physics, Latin, chemistry. All failing. His mother contacted us in desperation. We started an intensive tutoring and study method programme.
From the start, something didn't add up.
Matteo was attentive. Curious. Rational in recognising his own mistakes. He wasn't a lazy student: he was a dimmed student.
At the end of a lesson, he stopped and complimented me on Up to Ten. "This is really cool. I'm passionate about startups too — it's amazing to build something of your own. Are you publicly traded?"
Publicly traded.
He didn't have the exact understanding of the term, but he knew the concept existed. And he said it with his eyes sparkling.
This student the school was about to fail... was talking about markets, entrepreneurship, building something from nothing. With passion.
The problem of labelled students
Every year, thousands of students are labelled as "lazy," "problematic," or simply "not cut out for studying" when they actually possess intelligences and passions that the school system cannot recognise. According to ISTAT data, Italy has one of the highest school dropout rates in Western Europe at 11.5%.
The question I can't get out of my head: why can't schools intercept these passions?
I'm not generalizing — there are extraordinary teachers. But the system is built to evaluate standardised skills through written tests and oral examinations. A student with practical, entrepreneurial, or creative intelligence can find themselves completely out of context.
The limits of traditional assessment
The Italian school system primarily evaluates:
- Memory and reproduction: ability to memorise and repeat information
- Formal written expression: essays, reports, written tests
- Curriculum compliance: following exactly the prescribed programme
- Sequential learning: proceeding step by step in a predetermined order
But many other types of intelligence remain invisible:
- Practical intelligence: solving real problems, building, creating
- Entrepreneurial thinking: seeing opportunities, planning projects
- Social intelligence: leadership, negotiation, teamwork
- Divergent creativity: finding unconventional solutions
Matteo excelled in these latter areas. But no grade measured them.
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How to recognise hidden talent
Hidden talent often manifests in unexpected ways: intense curiosity about extra-curricular topics, logical reasoning abilities in informal contexts, surprising questions that reveal an active mind. The student who is "switched off" at school can be brilliant when talking about their passions.
Signs your child might have hidden talent
If you recognise some of these behaviours, you might be looking at a student with untapped potential:
- Selective intense curiosity: Shows no interest in school subjects but devours information about specific topics (technology, economics, art, particular sciences)
- Logical reasoning in informal contexts: Understands complex concepts when encountering them in real life, but struggles with abstract theory at school
- Surprising questions: Asks questions that reveal a working mind, even if grades say otherwise
- Personal projects: Builds, creates, programmes, draws in their free time — even if they don't do homework
- Maturity in some areas: Shows "adult" competencies in specific areas (money management, negotiation, practical problem-solving)
- Frustration, not disinterest: Isn't apathetic towards studying, but frustrated — feels that what they're learning doesn't make sense
The difference between laziness and misalignment
A lazy student doesn't want to put in effort. A misaligned student cannot put in effort within a system that doesn't speak their language.
This difference is crucial for parents trying to understand how to help their children. The lazy student avoids any form of effort. The misaligned student puts in intense effort — but elsewhere.
Why schools struggle to see this talent
The Italian school system, despite reforms, remains anchored to a model built for 20th-century needs: training compliant workers capable of following instructions and reproducing standardised procedures. But the 2026 job market demands different skills: creativity, adaptability, critical thinking, entrepreneurship.
Structural constraints
- Large classes: With 25-30 students, personalising teaching is impossible
- Rigid curricula: Teachers must complete ministerial programmes, leaving little room for exploration
- Standardised assessment: Tests and examinations measure only certain types of skills
- Limited time: Class hours don't allow teachers to truly know each student
The vicious cycle of labelling
When a student accumulates failing grades, a dangerous mechanism kicks in:
- The student receives low grades
- Teachers and parents label them as "struggling"
- The student internalizes the label
- Motivation drops further
- Grades worsen
- The label strengthens
This cycle can only be broken when someone looks beyond grades and sees the person.
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How personalised tutoring uncovers hidden potential
Personalised tutoring works because it creates a space where students can be seen as individuals, not numbers. At Up to Ten, every journey begins with a listening phase to understand not only the gaps, but also the passions, interests, and reasoning patterns of the student.
Our approach with Matteo
With Matteo, we didn't start with math. We started with him.
We discovered that:
- He understood mathematical concepts perfectly when we connected them to business examples
- Physics seemed useless until we connected it to product engineering
- Latin bored him, but he was fascinated by the etymology of words in the business world
- Chemistry became interesting when discussing innovation and materials
Our method doesn't just "explain better" — it builds bridges between what the student needs to learn and what excites them.
What changed
The most important change can't be measured with grades.
Matteo stopped defining himself as "the one who doesn't get it." He started asking questions in class. He connected what he was studying to what he was passionate about. He understood he wasn't "stupid" — he was simply in a system that didn't speak his language.
His grades improved, yes. But they were a consequence, not the goal. When a student regains confidence in themselves, the numbers follow.
What parents can do
Parents play a crucial role in recognising and nurturing their children's hidden talent. The first step is observing without judging: what excites your child? In what contexts do they light up? Then, seek support that goes beyond simple grade recovery.
Concrete actions
- Observe, don't interrogate: Notice when your child lights up. What do they talk about with enthusiasm? What do they do spontaneously in their free time?
- Separate the grade from the person: A failing grade in math doesn't define your child. It's a performance indicator in a specific system, not a measure of their worth.
- Look for connections: Help them see links between school subjects and their passions. Math is everywhere — in gaming, music, sports, business.
- Find allies: A tutor who can look beyond grades can make all the difference. Don't look for someone to "drill repetition" — look for someone who understands your child.
- Value extra-curricular skills: If your child has talents in non-academic areas, explicitly recognise them. They're resources, not distractions.
When to seek professional support
Consider contacting a personalised tutoring service when:
- Grades have been declining steadily for more than one term
- Your child shows signs of growing frustration or disinterest
- You sense that "something's wrong" but can't figure out what
- Communication with the school isn't leading to concrete solutions
- Your child has strong passions but can't connect them to studying
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The future of "labelled" students
Many entrepreneurs, innovators, and successful leaders were "problem" students at school. Steve Jobs was expelled, Richard Branson had learning difficulties, Einstein was considered slow. The school system measures certain skills, but doesn't predict life success.
How many "Matteos" do we lose every year? Labelled, discouraged, invisible. Just because the system can't speak their language.
Talent doesn't disappear. It often hides. Our job is to go find it.
If you recognise your child in this story, know that you're not alone — and that there's much that can be done. The first step is to stop seeing the problem and start looking for the potential.
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FAQ
How can I tell if my child has hidden talent or is simply lazy?
A student with hidden talent shows intense curiosity in extra-curricular areas, asks surprising questions, and engages in personal projects. A lazy student avoids any form of effort. If your child lights up when talking about their passions but switches off at school, there's probably a misalignment, not a lack of willingness.
How long does it take to see improvements with personalised tutoring?
The first changes in attitude are often noticeable after 3-4 weeks: greater openness, reduced frustration, early signs of confidence. For concrete grade improvements, 2-3 months of consistent work is generally needed. The complete journey of rebuilding motivation can take an entire school year.
Why don't traditional tutoring methods work for these students?
Traditional tutoring focuses on "filling gaps" by repeating the same content with methods similar to those used at school. For students with hidden talent, a different approach is needed: understanding how they think, finding hooks to their passions, building a personalised path that gives meaning to what they learn.
How can I help my child without making them feel even more "wrong"?
Avoid phrases like "you need to try harder" or "why aren't you like your sibling." Start by recognising their strengths: "I've noticed you're really good at..." Then explore together how those skills might help them at school too. The message should be: "you're not wrong, you just need to find your way."
Does Up to Ten work with students at risk of failing the year?
Yes, we regularly work with students in critical situations. Our approach always starts from the person, not the grade. We build a recovery plan that addresses both immediate gaps and the deeper causes of difficulties, integrating study methods, emotional support, and tutoring in individual subjects.
Filippo
Co-Fondatore Responsabile Innovazione
STEM center of excellence in Milan. Certified tutors, structured methodology, and proprietary technology to guide every student toward their goals.